A Guy's Guide to a Ring by Spring

By Uloop Guest Writer on February 27, 2015

The pressures of going to school and getting good grades are hard, especially with parents and academic advisers breathing down your neck about graduation qualifications, requirements and deadlines. On top of graduation, your parents would also like you to have a few job offers thrown at your feet by the time you finish school. You begin to wonder if it’s at all possible to satisfy everyone.

And just then, another pressure is added to your list of expectations: a ring by spring.

More and more young men and women are pressured by each other, and sometimes by friends and family, to get engaged before or right around graduation, leaving only a small remaining percentage of their brain to really focus on what school is about: learning and actually being able to graduate.

However, a ring by spring doesn’t always have to be a stressful situation. If you’re going to go through with this deadline, there are a few things you should know and do, especially before spring.

Find Out if Love Really Exists Between the Two of You

Unless you’re in some sort of arranged marriage (we hope not), this part matters — a whole bunch

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. Love is a fragile thing, but it is also very strong and consists of limitless possibilities. According to LiveScience, “People who are truly in love tend to focus on the positive qualities of their beloved, while overlooking his or her negative traits.”

While testing the strength of a relationship is sometimes dangerous, it’s necessary to determine if you want to spend the rest of your life with your mate. One thing you can ask yourself is: have both of you verbally expressed your love for each other (saying the three special words)?

If not, a ring by spring is more likely a dream than a reality and your relationship needs more time to flourish. As it is revealed in the fairy tales, true love begins before marriage and continues as you both live happily ever after.

A Ring by Spring Works Better if You’ve Already Considered It

Another thing that helps soften the blow of a ring by spring is already having considered it. If marriage has already crossed your mind (and you’re ok with it), then the news of getting engaged shouldn’t be that hard to swallow. However, if “marriage” is a word you haven’t heard since being forced to watch your parent’s wedding video, then it might feel like a large rock is lodged in your throat when the “ring by spring” requirement (or strong suggestion) is thrown your way.

If the latter is the case, then you’ve got a lot of thinking to do. If the three special words have been said, on more than a couple occasions, and you actually love your significant other, then perhaps giving the idea some thought won’t be as dreadful as it may initially seem. However, an article from Dr. Phil suggests not getting married if you have to force yourself or your spouse-to-be into it.

Knowing A lot About the Other Person Is Vital

It’s possible there are a few people in the world who know every single thing there is to know about their husband or wife, but a lot of people don’t know everything and it’s not bad at all. Still, knowing the important things are, well, important such as favorites, dislikes, personality, moods, etc. But, there’s one thing that isn’t brought up a lot of times in a relationship, or even known at all, that is pretty much vital to a ring by spring proposal, and that thing is the actual ring.

A lot of women know what kind of ring they want. Here’s the kicker: you’re expected to know it, too. But how are you supposed to know everything about their ideal ring without bringing it up and filling them with excitement?

There’s a skill to this. Paying attention to her reaction in romance movies when women get engaged and show off their rings is a good way to take note of her preferences. If you subsequently take the time to learn about diamond shapes, you’ll be able to get the same reaction when you pop the question.

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Use the Element of Surprise in Your Expected Proposal

Just because a ring is expected to arrive by spring doesn’t mean the proposal can’t be a surprise. There are many days in spring, as well as moments. Choosing the perfect one and catching your mate by surprise will make the whole thing spectacular. Obvious choices such as holidays and anniversaries are sweet, but if you really want the proposal to be unexpected, choosing a date when marriage is not even on your mate’s mind gets amazing results.

If you have a ring by spring suggestion or deadline, make the most of it by turning it into a special occasion that will be remembered for days to come. That’s how it’s meant to be, anyway.

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